Wednesday, December 12, 2007

Dad

Sean Connery?


Nope, it's my Dad!! I have been told by many of my friends that I was lucky to be a Sean look a likes daughter. (say that three times fast)

This is a pic of him in 1980.

My Dad is so sweet. He called me tonight to see what time I wanted to come out to his place. We always had christmas breakfast/brunch there. With the whole family of multigenerations gathering for holiday cheer.

I couldn't. I told him that I wanted to meet with him on the sunday before christmas and swap presents then. He seemed a little upset and said 'oh no, we need you out here, we are counting on it'. I think he may mean that he needs me out there, as I am the one of his children close enough in the area to visit. And I always wanted to be out there to see him. I remember thinking for years that this christmas may be the last one. I never imagined that last christmas would be the last one for Jim and I.


So I told him that I didn't think I could do it and that I would probably stay home and watch old movies with the dogs. And I was starting to tear up and trying not to. He was like 'oh no come on out' and then said 'wait, betty wants to tell you what she did today' and he handed the phone to her. She and I talked and I told her I was sorry if I upset him. I don't want to upset my Dad. He is 83 and has been a big support these last few months.


We talked and then I remembered that they come in to the city on christmas day night to her sisters for a small party. Jim and I have never done that with them. I asked her if I could tag along and it would be a 'new' thing and new memories. So we are going to do that. They can swing by and pick me up and we will go to my Aunt's. I will still get to see Dad on Christmas day.


I know that he didn't want me to be alone, and I love him dearly for caring, but with all that has gone on in just the last couple days, I realize that this is going to be a tougher time than I thought. I think I was able to make Betty understand and thus my Dad. We have become a lot closer in the last couple years than ever before and it has been a great gift.


I am going to post a picture of my Dad and Jim. There was a Fathers day party at my Dads last year and one of the stepbrothers got all of the 'dads' a tee shirt. "Grateful Dad". Yes, they are both making faces. Jim is a fake and my Dad is the usual 'take the darn picture and get it over with'.

You know, writing about Dad has helped me feel better. I know how much my Dad loved Jim and Dad knew how much Jim loved me.

6 comments:

rachd said...

Isn't it a blessing/curse to have family love you and care about you so much? I find they love me and have no idea what to do with me and they worry about me but aren't sure what to do. Does that make sense?

I can wholly get behind the idea of doing something new and different Christmas day. We are too.

That picture of Jim and your Dad is too precious! :o) How blessed to have two wonderful men in your life!

Laurie said...

Oh Betsy,

Your Dad has such a sweet heart and love for you. Cherish this while you make new memories this Christmas. I'll bet you being there is the best present ever in HIS heart this year. Now I won't have to worry about you spending it alone:) I do worry about you ya know:) And I have to tell you that though I didn't comment on the TV memories the other night, I loved reading that you, the dogs and the cat were all together on the couch. It made my heart smile until I read that you lost it and started to cry, then my heart felt so sad for you. Your Dad is soooooooo handsome and I love Sean Connery!!! The picture of him and Jim is so good.
Let your dad love on you this Christmas, it will make him feel so needed and you so blessed. Good dads are hard to find. He sounds like a keeper to me.:)

Love, Laurie in Ca.

Kristy said...

Oh, what a wonderful post! My smile kept getting bigger and bigger - and then the t-shirts? Priceless!
I love that you are doing something new for Christmas. What a blessing your Father is, can you share him with me?? ;o) Very sweet.
**hugs**

Dan said...

Thanks for visiting my blog Betsy!

This was a very sweet article about Sean Con ... oops ... about your dad. Give him an extra big hug on Christmas Day, OK?

And here are a few hugs for you:

{{{ HUGS }}}

Marie said...

My dad used to look like the guy that did the oatmeal commercials, can't remember his name. Then her grew a beard and looked like Ernest Hemingway, then he shaved it off again, lost weight, and now looks like Harrison Ford.

Betts4 said...

marie, I like harrison ford. And hey, he and sean were in a movie together. Maybe we should have our dads meet!

Thank you all for the hugs. It was a tough thursday so they are appreciated. And hugs on back!

Dan, I found your blog thru laura and found it interesting to read. visit here anytime.