"When we look back at all that has happened to us, we easily divide our lives into good things to be grateful for and bad things to forget. But with a past divided we cannot move freely into the future . . . True spiritual gratitude embraces all of our past, the good as well as the bad events, the joyful as well as the sorrowful moments . . . we want to remember all of it as God’s guidance . . . even the bad did not happen out of the loving presence of God."