tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-694962915730683342.post7241372140589157423..comments2023-07-30T08:25:35.005-04:00Comments on A Night in the Forest: NowBetts4http://www.blogger.com/profile/18037389343121979588noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-694962915730683342.post-43356116634803118432007-07-19T01:19:00.000-04:002007-07-19T01:19:00.000-04:00Betsy,Sounds like you might be entering the "mad a...Betsy,<BR/><BR/>Sounds like you might be entering the "mad at the world" phase. I remember that one very well. I was a total "witch" with a "b"! Mine lasted way to long and in retrospect I did not like the person I was during that time. I didn't know how my personality had changed so dramatically until someone finally confronted me about a year later. After each of my losses I became a different person...some good and some bad. I learned alot about myself. Hopefully I kept most of the good change and "learned" from the bad changes. Keep your chin up. There will come a day when you will actually hear yourself laugh again.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-694962915730683342.post-34509434550815515922007-07-16T18:41:00.000-04:002007-07-16T18:41:00.000-04:00Thank you. That was like a big huge hug. I neede...Thank you. That was like a big huge hug. I needed it.Betts4https://www.blogger.com/profile/18037389343121979588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-694962915730683342.post-24997067087346975442007-07-16T11:12:00.000-04:002007-07-16T11:12:00.000-04:00Bety, of COURSE you're cranky sometimes. You're gr...Bety, of COURSE you're cranky sometimes. You're grieving. Your emotions are going to be all over the place, and you won't be able to control them.<BR/><BR/>Everyone should understand. When a friend has suffered a loss like yours, one must make allowences. The friend isn't going to be herself for a while. And anybody who gets offended at that should put themselves in your place and shut up.<BR/><BR/>In the olden days, people understood this and widows were not expected to carry on the usual social interactions for a year and a day. People who were grieving wore black, as a sign to the rest of society: "Caution, I am not myself and may behave irrationally at times."<BR/><BR/>Nowadays it's not possible to withdraw from society for a year, and if you wear black everyone just thinks you're in fashion (or a goth). But the point remains -- people suffering grief are going to have highly emotional bouts, and that's that.<BR/><BR/>Your true friends and family know what you're going through, and (hopefully) are adult enough to understand that if you're temporarily cranky or grumpy, you don't mean it. They would forgive you...except that there's nothing to forgive.<BR/><BR/>Hang in there, be as grumpy or cranky as you need to (or giddy, or weepy, or angry, or sentimental...), and know that your friends & family love you.<BR/><BR/>-DonMeerkatdonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15217892733792461253noreply@blogger.com